Posts Tagged ‘neighbors’
I was going through my email & came across this spiritual thought from one of my church leaders. This totally fits the situation & my reaction to it so I thought I’d share it.
“If you feel you have been wronged—by anyone . . . or by anything—deal with the matter directly and with all the strength you have. . . . And, without delay, turn to the Lord. Exercise all of the faith you have in Him. Let Him share your burden.”
Donald L. Hallstrom, “Turn to the Lord,” Ensign, May 2010, 80
and now back to the post. I’m off to take his advice!
…still kinda upset. Last week while my friends were here, I invited my neighbor’s daughter & her friend to come swimming w/ us. My neighbor vouched that her daughter’s friend could “swim really well under water”. For some reason I felt concerned about this friend of a friend & kept asking my neighbor about the girl. My neighbor finally told me to give her some kind of test if I was so worried (she actually put it like that).
I didn’t think any more about it since I was getting into the pool for a few minutes (it’s been 100F or close to lately). I was just getting back out of the pool when the two girls arrived. I sat on the deck w/ my friend (visitor from back east) & visited while watching the kids. I needed to go get dinner started & since my friend was sitting there & I had the reassurance that every one could swim I started in the house. All of a sudden, an overwhelming desire to ensure that this young girl could swim came over me. I turned to the girl, who was about mid point along the wall @ the narrowest point but in the deep water (pool depth @ deepest is 9 feet) & told the girl to swim across. She looked up @ me & gave me a look that I couldn’t decipher, took a deep breath & went under. I assumed that she was pushing off under the water but no, she was drowning. I dropped my towel, kicked off my flip flops & went in. (All seriousness aside, it was a text book life guard entry. My old instructors would have been so proud!) I swam over to her & then down. I pushed her up & then towed her to the side where my friend waited to help. There is a big ledge on both sides of my pool @ this point & we had her sitting there before she even realized that she was okay. And she was okay. She hadn’t swallowed any water & while she was scared she wasn’t too upset.
Let’s step back for a moment & let me tell you how freaking mad I was. Both of these girls knew the one girl couldn’t swim but they had wanted to get into my pool so badly that they lied. I scolded the one girl but wish I’d scolded my neighbor’s daughter as well. I ended up letting the girls stay however I wouldn’t let them out of the shallow end & when my neighbor came over I told her what had happened. She too, turned & scolded the girl. Lately though, all I can think of is that my neighbor’s daughter knew her friend couldn’t swim (she was totally unconcerned about her friend when this happened & yes, I understand that as a 10 yr old child her brain is irresponsible & immature but it still really upsets me) & that her mom hasn’t said anything to her about it. (I feel this way because of things that have happened when we’ve been together.) This is the same neighbor w/ the wild child dog, who has since been fixed & is no longer as wild (the dog), & she always seems to have the attitude of “oh, well”. sigh… I’m working through my anger.
Okay, the moral of the story is, never turn your back on anyone in your pool & don’t let unknown friends swim. And maybe even known friends. I haven’t finished deciding yet although I’m sure I’ll invite my neighbors back just no friend of friends!
Well this is one experience I would/could do w/o. Turns out I ran into some poison ivy/oak or sumac. I must have had it on my hand & then my shorts got droopy, I pulled them up & voila! Rash & blisters! Yep, this is one experience I could totally have lived w/o having. I’m still not certain where I got it from but after I showed it to my neighbor she explained what I had. All I can say is thank heavens for experienced neighbors! So… anybody got a fast acting remedy?
And thanks Kristina P, Gramee, & Jen. I’m mighty proud of that “A” too! And Linda? I’m betting your grandkids are pretty glad that you live closer too. My kid would so be all over that.
First of all. I really like my neighbors & since there’s only three (we live in the boondocks & most people live out here so that they don’t have to see the neighbors – I only wish we’d known that before we moved here!) that I actually speak to on any kind of a regular basis it kinda behooves me to make the effort to get along w/ them. That said I really, really, really dislike my one neighbor’s attitude towards her dogs. Any time we (hubby, kids or I ) go over we get jumped on by one of her dogs. I understand that he’s a young dog (under 2) but he’s also a big dog @ 98 lbs. My whole thing w/ this is for her not to laugh & tell me what a young dog he is. This dog has knocked over the princess & almost knocked over the rest of us. Believe me when I say that we have severely cut down on visiting them but I pick up her daughter from school sometimes. I really think this is the neighbor’s fault for just laughing over it even when I’ve explained that I don’t like this & that the princess was more than a little upset over being knocked over. All of you dog lovers out there – HELP! To me some of this is definitely the owner’s fault for not teaching the dog manners. Am I wrong here? What kills me is that she gets after the dog if he knocks over her little boy. Do the rest of us not matter? Ugh! I need advice, people!!! (please….)
ready for a change!
i have a big dog too. he’s 88 lbs & is a really big baby. he’s all over anybody who comes over (ie, likes to follow them around or bark @ anyone new) however we put him up in either the house or the back (we have a dog run but don’t use it that often because we feel that Rex needs the room to roam) so it’s not like we just don’t like dogs!